Texting while driving is EXTREMELY dangerous…

Okay, so if you’re perfect then you’ve probably NEVER texted while driving or Twittered or checked your Facebook status or read your email on your phone while you were driving.

If you’re not perfect then you probably have.

Last week I was checking my email (from home) and saw this video.  It was actually a link to the Youtube URL.  It is NOT SUITABLE FOR LITTLE EYES.  It is VERY GRAPHIC.

Watching this video put it in such REAL terms for me….  Exactly what can happen when you take your eyes off the road and you’re driving.

I drive with my precious, 2 children.  Imagining this scenario alone, makes me anxious!  I would literally DIE if I looked over and I saw my family in this predicament, all because I took my eyes off the road…

I was driving today and picked up the phone to click on an application and find some information.  I quickly handed the phone to my husband and let him do it.

Watch this video but be WARNED.  IT IS GRAPHIC!!!!  After you watch…  Let me know what your thoughts are, please.  Also, after you watch, please let everyone living in your house that has a driver’s license watch it as well.

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Why care about people???

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I’ll use an example that you’ll recognize if you have children.

What do you say to your child when he/she comes home and complains that someone told them they’re ugly or that they don’t want to play or be friends with them anymore?

Do you just tell them, “Oh don’t start that”.  Or, “Can’t you guys just get along”?

I dont’ know what you say but this happened to my little girl AGAIN at the beginning of the week.  (This week marks the beginning of the new school year)

When she came home and told me that another little girl said some awful things to her.  After I reassured my daughter, I told her, “The next time she says something like that,  you ask her why is she being so mean and before she answers put your arm around her and tell her that you’re her friend”.  Now, please consider my little girl is 7.  There are different ways of approaching this depending on the age of the child.  But this is not a blog about child rearing.  I’m merely using this example to illustrate my point.

You see…  people …  You, me, that guy and the next…  All we want is to be acknowledged.  Reassured, if you will.  Really.  We want to know that we’re not invisible.  That others care.

You don’t have to give insencere compliments.  Smile at the homeless guy.  Help someone else’s child back up when you see them fall at the playground.  Interact with the people you see at Starbuck’s every morning.  Email your children’s teacher and tell her thanks for having the patience he/she has.  Give the mail man a “Coke and a smile”.  The next time you go to the doctor ask him how HE is doing.  Answer your emails.  Respond to a voice message.

Think of it this way.  If you slow your car down when an animal is crossing the street so you won’t hit it, why would’t you slow down for other human beings.  Really… If you have courtesy for an animal, doesn’t it make sense to have it for people?

Facebook, Myspace, Twitter, Youtube and the rest are full of people screaming, “HEY!  LOOK AT ME!  I’M OVER HERE”!

We’re all sharing this planet.  🙂  When you make someone feel like they matter, like you care, like they have worth…  You my friend, have the key to success beyond your wildest imagination.

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Why Ultimatums Never Work

UltimatumUltimatums RARELY work.  Why?  Because the person GIVING the ultimatum uses it to control the person receiving it. They want the other person to change their behavior but not for that person’s own good.  They want the other person to change their behavior for their own good.  So they no longer have to suffer…  So they no longer have to hurt…

Almost all of us can recall a time in our life when we gave someone an ultimatum.  The problem with ultimatums is that the person giving them, is usually not capable of following through with their “threat”.  “Stop this or else”!  Ultimatums stem from fear.  “If you don’t stop drinking I’m leaving you”!  The giver hopes the other person will change but in reality they’re pushing that person away.   An ultimatum is really saying, “Please change your behavior because I’m really hurting and I can’t live without you”.  Although the receiver does not hear these words exactly, they know that your threats are not  real at all, so they’re not motivated to change.  In fact, they may be motivated to engage more in the behavior you want them to stop.   And in the end, ultimatums create resentment in the person being forced to change.

Ultimatums are certainly not “unconditional love”.  You’re not really accepting that other person for who they are.  I’m not saying the other person may not have crossed boundaries.  But there’s a CLEAR difference between setting clear boundaries and ultimatums.

I learned a sobering lesson the hard way…  Do you want someone to do something you forced them to do?  Or do you want someone to do something that came from their heart because they genuinely wanted to do it out of love and respect for you?  I think the latter is best.  Don’t you agree?

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I love Jesus… but I drink a little…

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Out-do YOURSELF

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New habits will give you NEW results!

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Take ACTION towards your dream TODAY!

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