Someone asked me what I meant when I said that people that have no regrets haven’t learned anything. So, let me explain.
I didn’t mean that you should stay stuck in your regrets. Because regrets are in the past. What can we do about the past? Not much. But what you CAN do is LEARN from it.
I’ve always said that the bad thing about experience is that it always comes after the lesson. Not the other way around. So regrets should motivate you to do things differently. Not to keep doing the same thing over and over again. That’s what I mean when I say the people that say, “I have no regrets”… Haven’t learned anything. You should have regrets. If you don’t then you’ll just keep doing the same things over and over again. And sadly, the people that do the same thing over and again keep themselves in victim mode.
“She never wants to listen to my problems it’s always about her. He used me. She lied again. All he cares about is himself. She did it again.” These are all victim phrases.
And I have to share this one thing with you. I TOTALLY know what it feels like to be “the victim” but I also realize that I sooooooo kept myself there.
However, sooner or later YOU’VE GOT TO CUT THAT CRAP OUT! You’ve got to develop your courage factor.
Regrets? Of course we all have them. Just don’t let your regrets stop you. Use your regrets to move you forward as you learn from your past!